No Match: the adoption wait continues

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It’s so totally disappointing… apparently only families requesting children over 5 years of age (not us) were matched. The next meeting is in April.

We’re all pretty bummed.

I wouldn’t have got the kids hyped up, if I had thought this was going to happen… at least there is some positive learning for them. Spice said “if you waited and waited for us, you must have really wanted us.” True dat. Sugar, the emotions-avoider, just flailed about frantically on the bed as we had our family meeting on the duvet. “I’m a little sad. What’s for supper?” But then a minute later: “I’m sorry there were 7 court dates for us. That must have been really hard.” Also, true dat. But worth it.

So let’s hope this is all worth it in the end, too.

Jason was surfing the internet about everything Lesotho adoption today – he woke up this morning pretty excited. I on the other hand, didn’t sleep. The whole thing just makes me tired and depressed. Ug.

Off to our parent adoption support group to tell our woes tonight. At least we have a group of friends who understand!

Pediatric AIDS in Lesotho

I was browsing for videos on Lesotho and came across this awesome one from the Elizabeth Glaser Pediatric AIDS Foundation. For those of you that don’t know, Lesotho has the third highest HIV rate in the world: one in every three people is living with HIV. According to the foundation, “out of a population of 1.89 million, approximately 320,000 people are living with HIV, including approximately 41,000 children; 24,000 of these children are in need of treatment.”

Well, I was very impressed to hear about the Elizabeth Glaser foundation’s project to help stall mother-to-child transmission. You see, there is no way that children need to contract HIV from their mothers… simple medicines and care prevent mother-to-child transmission.

According to their website, the Foundation has, as of June 30, 2012:

  • Provided more than 108,000 women with PMTCT (prevention of mother-to-child transmission) services.
  • Enrolled more than 200,000 people into HIV care and support programs, including more than 9,400 children under the age of 15.
  • Started more than 96,000 people on antiretroviral therapy (ART) for HIV, including more than 4,600 children under the age of 15.

Pretty awesome. If you’d like to learn more, here is there website:
http://www.pedaids.org/What-We-re-Doing/Where-We-Are-Working/Lesotho

Crossed fingers and toes

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Tonight the girls and Jason and I went out to dinner. Obviously, all we could think about was the matching meeting coming up in Lesotho on Wednesday. We are so excited… The girls are already planning their summer birthday party. And when we mentioned that maybe, just maybe, their new little brother would be at their birthday party, the girls were ecstatic.

It’s been a long wait for this one: we have waited longer then we waited for the girls. It has been 18 months, a year and a half, since our dossier landed in Lesotho. Maybe, just maybe, this will be the time.

I am also hopeful, because Good news usually comes in threes. Our friends from Kelowna just brought home a new baby boy! Congratulations, L and B! And another good on the line friend had ever furl this week as well! So if good things come in threes… Maybe it will be our turn on Wednesday.

Cross your fingers and toes!

Lesotho Adoption – where are we at?

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Well, the short answer is that we are in the same place as September, 2011. Waiting to adopt a little boy, 2-4 years old, from Lesotho.

But for those of you that want some more detail…

First, the good news… the next matching meeting in Lesotho is on February 15th 20th.Yup – that’s less than 2 weeks away. The government is apparently striving for having more regular matching meetings again, which is a great thing.

Another good thing (sort of,) is that our business opening has also stalled so much, that probably Jason will be able to go with me to Lesotho after all. That’s a silver lining, for sure (More on the business stuff at some other point.)

But why haven’t we been matched and it’s been a year and half already? Wasn’t this supposed to be the quick and risky program?

Well, yes. Little did we know that the risk would be the program becoming the longer, stable program! When we started with Lesotho, they were having regular matching meetings and most families were referred within a few weeks of their dossiers arriving in the country for the scheduled meeting. A few things have happened since.

First, there were shuffles in staff, expectations and policies. Many of these new policies were designed to protect kids, but they were really hard to implement, considering Lesotho is such a small country and the orphanages, except one, are very basic.

The new policies were also in preparation for Lesotho to become a Hague Convention-compliant adoption program, although we didn’t know it at the time. It’s pretty impressive, actually, but Lesotho has managed to become Hague-compliant, and not shut down the adoption process. It did slow down to a trickle, but it didn’t shut, and I personally don’t know any other African country that has managed that. On December 1, 2012, Lesotho became Hague compliant. Our dossier was submitted before then, so we understand the dossier will be grandfathered. Of course, Canada and our agency are Hague-compliant as well, but our dossier was not built in that context.

Oh and the last stall was the federal election. In the past, they have had some pretty rowdy elections, but this one seemed to pass peacefully, even with a change in government. But as with any political change, there were people shuffles and it took a while to get everything settled out.

So there we are… 1 1/2 years later. Again, I’m glad that Lesotho has taken the steps to become Hague-compliant, but it has been hard to wait. Heck, this adoption has taken longer than the last one! The girls often ask if they “really are actually going to get a brother.” We reply: “We hope so!”

Cross your fingers and toes for us that we will be matched on February 15th!