Courtdate unsuccessful – again!
Mar. 19th | Posted by Nicky
30 comments
I am not a patient person – not even remotely. I am getting pretty sick and tired of this… today (or yesterday in Ethiopia) was our third court date. And once again, the Ministry of Women’s Affairs did not produce the letter needed to complete our file.
Apparently the judge was not impressed (we are on the same page on that one!) and has rescheduled our fourth court date for April 2, two weeks from now….
You wouldn’t think we’d get used to being disappointed, but I actually think we are. It seems like we will never be finished and the girls will never be ours – and never know about us. They must be wondering – all these kids are leaving with new parents, but no one out there is showing up for them. They are almost three – they must be wondering. Hopefully April 2 they will know they have new parents who will love them and come for them soon.
ARGH!! I’m sorry to hear this.
Well two weeks, that’s good that the judge is irritated. Maybe the MOWA will get it together. Sorry this has happened. Again. I’ll be thinking of you and praying it up in two weeks.
Nicky and Jrock,
This blows!!! I’m so sorry to hear that court was a no go this time. I can’t even imagine how disappointed and upset you must be, we passed the first time and that was so fricking stressful, I can’t comprehend how 4 times would be.
At least, April 2 is relatively quick for a re-schedule. I’ll be thinking of you lots!
Rhonda
Oh Nicky!! I am so sorry to hear this! I am sending tons of positive energy your way that all goes well on April 2!!
Rana
Nicky & Jrock,
I am so so sorry. I know there is nothing that I can say that will bring you any comfort – just know that I am here and thinking about you both. Hang in there.
-Kari
AW! DARN!
I’d be annoyed, too, if I were you.
Let’s hope and pray for a successful court date in 2 weeks!!!!
That sucks!! April 2nd is my Mom’s birthday so hopefully that will help!
Steph
Nicky, I am so sorry to hear this. I honestly can’t believe that they still don’t have the letter! This is ridiculous. At least your next date is scheduled 2 weeks from now and not 2 months.
Don’t give up, your girls are going to come home to you guys.
(((hug))))
emily
Oh, Nicky!!! I am so sad for you. How frustrating! It makes me wonder…how can they possibly NOT have one stupid piece of paper 3 times? 3 times? Really?? What the heck are they doing in their office? They obviously must have a list of upcoming court dates/babies, so you would think it would be pretty simple to have the documents prepared for the date in question. What a waste of the court’s precious time, and more importantly, your sweet babies who are not with the loving parents they should be. It is an utter travesty! If I lived closer, I’d be over with a big bottle of red wine and a chick flick. Poor babes, and poor you guys. At least this wait is only 2 weeks, not that it’s any consolation. Is your agency allowed to call and get the Imagine reps in Ethiopia to give MOWA an earful, or would that jeopardise them actually getting the letter written? I hate beaurocratic red tape!
I am assuming you are with Imagine…now I am thinking it was CAFAC…either way, it bites.
Oh Nicky I’m sorry to hear that. At least it’s just 2 weeks until the next one… not that 2 weeks won’t seem like forever.
Dad and I share your and J’s disappointment. I can’t believe that those two sweethearts are still living in Limbo, not aware that there is a family eager to welcome them home.
Not only am I disappointed for them and for both of you, I’m also disappointed for Dad and I. We can’t wait until we will officially be grandparents. My family announcement email continues to reside in the draft file.
Hopefully when we see you on April 3 we can all celebrate together! I’ll be praying for a better result next time. (Although my prayers don’t seem to be working too well right now, I believe there must be a hidden reason for this torturous pathway you’re on.)
Luv to you both.
I am SO SORRY.
I’m so sorry to hear this! You must be devastated. I hope the next couple of weeks go by quickly and you get good news on the 2nd. I’ll be rooting for you!
I’m sorry to hear that your court date was unsuccessful yet again, I still don’t know the outcome of my third court date today and have been watching for updates on your site (hoping for good news). I fear that I will receive the same news on Monday from my caseworker. I wish you the best of luck on April 2.
Oh no, so sorry to hear the bad news. I have faith you’ll have nothing but good things happen from now on in your adoption journey. Me and Des will be thinking of you lots. xoxo
I am sooooo disappointed for you guys.
Sending you warm thoughts and a BIG hug!
Oh Nicky,
I am so sorry. The disappointment is just excruciating. I am holding you and J and your girls in my thoughts and praying for success April 2nd.
I’m so so sorry to hear this. I can’t believe it.
Your girls will know of you soon! I understand your
worry – I think it all the time about our two little ones.
Lots of prayers for you guys!
Michelle
What..again they didn’t show up with the letter?!! I’m sure you’re wishing you could be there to write it up yourself and hand deliver it to the judge! The adoption process is not for the faint of heart.
I will keep hoping and praying for you, esp April 2nd.
hugs and hugs
I’m so sorry Nicky. What a STUPID reason to not be through court. It’s just so crushing. My thoughts and prayers are with you for April 2nd. I want to be able to hear your shouts of joy that day, all the way over here in Alberta.
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear that!! I even woke up in the night last night and though, “It must be about noon in Ethiopia” and I said a prayer for you. I do believe in prayer, and I will keep praying for you both, and for your sweet little girls. Hang in there!
I really can’t believe it wasn’t successful again, there is no reason for this to be happening. All I can hope for is that you are both strong enough to go through it again and we will pray for success.
natalie
AWFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so sorry to hear this.
Thanks everybody… we appreciate it. I guess we are just grateful thatthe next court date is only two weeks from now!
That sucks. What more can I say? I am really sorry to hear this and of course hope that April 2 has a far different result.
I read this last night but couldn’t think of anything intelligent to add to the comments that had already been posted. I was stunned. As you can see, I still don’t have anything the least bit helpful or comforting to add. I’ll just say that like so many people who follow your blog, my thoughts are with you. We’ll all be here cheering when this court business is finally over, and those little girls are officially yours. I can’t wait to see that post!
I can’t imagine how tough this is for you guys. What a tough, long journey you are on. I will be rejoicing with you when all the paperwork finally comes together and you’re officially their Mommy!!
Ramona
Oh Nicky I am so sorry. I have been thinking about you all week. I remember worrying about the same things with Selam seeing other kids go. I am praying April 2nd is your day.
Natasha
Nicky, I’m so sorry. Sending good vibes to your family that April 2nd is the magical day!