Un-be-lievable. 7 months.
Apr. 3rd | Posted by Nicky
14 comments
You know, the waiting has now reached a different level. I think we’ve plateaued at “I wonder, seriously, if this is ever going to happen.” Remember, when we started out it was supposed to be a 2-6 month wait until referral. Wow. 7 months.
I still check my email every day… but I don’t actually expect to see anything, anymore…
It’s tough to keep your eyes on the prize sometimes. But it will happen.
I’m waiting right here with you, sister friend.
Hum… this is sucky. The only silver lining is that you will get your other paperwork submitted at referral… so at least your waiting post-referral will be filled with more joy and less sadness.
I’m still checking in on you all time and expecting great news. I really believe that once all of the kids in our block from the summer and fall finally get out of the TH and home, there will be a flood of referrals able to happen – and yours will be first!
I’m with ya. Our estimated timeline has tripled since we signed up. If nothing else, we will be intimidatingly strong women when this is through. People will behold our great strength and envy it. That said… enough already!!!
Hang in there!
Hoping you hear some good news soon! I feel for you, we’re in the same boat, waiting, waiting, wondering!!
Nicky, I can’t imagine. You must be asked quite often if you’ve received your referral which must make the wait difficult. I hope that you get to see your children’s faces very soon. I check your blog almost daily in hopes of seeing the good news posted. I hope that the 7th month is a very exciting month for your family.
Oh Nicky…we have also gone over our expected wait time…today marks 1 year, 1 week, 1 day for us.
I really thought both you and I (and Cinn too) would have celebrated by now.
My fingers are crossed for you.
Hugs,
Ricki
What can I say other than the old ‘hang in there.’ You don’t know when the date will be, but every day brings you closer to your referral.
Feeling for you Nicky. The downs on this journey can be so hard to cope with. Our experience is that the “n” should be removed out of time-lines, as the estimates really had nothing to do with reality.
But when you do get to the point of having a referral, and I really really hope it’s soon, you’ll be so happy that all those long months brought you to the beautiful children you’d trade for no others!
Here for you!
7 is your lucky number!!!!
I am with you. The mistake of being told that “it would take 2 – 9 months to recieve a referral, but you will be quicker due to age” has made it very hard, b/c in my mind, we are 5 months overdue!! I know though, that it will happen one day
Thnaks for all your kind words – I hope all of you waiting (for referrals or to pick up your kids!) will hear good news soon as well!
Nicky
I keep checking your site to see if you’ve heard something! We know exactly what you’re going through (1 year 3 months). The wait seems to reach a peak where you really don’t think you can go through it anymore.
But (apparently!) it does happen and it will be your turn.
I hope very soon,
Michelle
I don’t have any comforting words except to say what I have to believe for myself this time and what I have found to be true with our other adoptions…once you have your kids, you will understand the wait because if it were not for the wait, you would not have gotten the exact kids that were meant to be in your family and are the most wonderful “fit”. I really pray you will get the news soon and I agree with Tracy that it sounds like there will be some room freeing up at the TH this month and the next so that can only help us “waitees”.
I am so sorry Nicky. I wanted to check on you cause you’ve been quiet for awhile. I so thought things were going to happen. I hope all the movement we see means more referrals SOON!
barb