Changing our age request
Dec. 18th | Posted by Nicky
9 comments
Jrock and I did some serious pondering over the past two weeks, and decided to change the age perimeters on our request. We decided to do this after realizing that there were many sibling groups just over 3 years old that are waiting to be adopted. We also decided that adding a year to our request for an older child wouldn’t make much of a difference – a 3-4 year old would still be at home with use for at least a year before they went off to school. We also talked a lot about attachment, and the difference a year might make when binding with our older child. We decided that there might be different issues (more awareness of loss, grief – and how to discipline a child you are trying to attach to!) but not insurmountable issues.
So now, we are requesting to adopt from Ethiopia:
2 children ( siblings ) – probably a boy and a girl
1 child under 1 year old
1 child under 4 years old
Our very nice social worker wrote up a homestudy change lickety-split (ok, so it was only changing a couple of numbers, but still!) and our local agency is firing off the request update to Kids-link in one day. Very nice!
Will this change our referral wait time? Maybe… but I don’t really think so. We have been waiting 3.5 months already, so I suspect everything will all happen around the same time.
Anyway, a small change, but a meaningful one for us – and one we are very comfortable with. Thanks to all my blogging/discussion group friends for their great advice and support!
Nicky & Jrock
I hope it’s a good decision for you on a number of levels: that it helps ease your mind after all the thinking and discussion you’ve been doing, and that it speeds two wonderful children into your hearts and homes that much more quickly.
Congratulations on your decision. It will be fun, no matter what the ages. A lot of work too, but we go in with our eyes wide open!!
Yay!! Can’t wait to hear who your kids are…
Shauna
I can’t wait too!!!
Hi Nicky,
I read your blog a little bit ago and saw you guys were trying to decide if you should change your age. It’s nice to finally have some closure on the “should we or shouldn’t we”. Once the decision is made, you can rest easy. If you’ve been waiting 3.5 months, I’m sure you referral will come soon!! We are requesting a 3 year old but she will be close to 4 by the time she comes home. We are so excited – it will be a great age – they are so aware and it will be exciting watching them experience everthing!!
Take care,
Tammy
PEI
These decisions are always tough. But you sound like you have put a lot of thought into it. I can’t wait to hear that you got your referral and see photos of your new family. Stay in touch.
Good on you for making a decision. I’m sure it’s the right one. I can’t wait for your referral news!
I can’t wait to hear about your referral….I”m sure it is right around the corner!
Ricki
As you well know this was our referral too. And this is the most wonderful Christmas (well at first they called it “princess”), and just being able to tuck them into bed for real instead of in my imagination is the best gift ever. Next year this will be yours too! congrats, sk