Waiting Stinks
Sep. 24th | Posted by Nicky
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I know, I know. It’s only been 3 weeks since our file went to Ethiopia. And Kidslink has very clearly told us that the expected wait for a referral is 6-8 months. BUT… there are so many people getting referrals sooner… just a couple days ago one couple got a referral for a 3 year old boy in 1 week. 1 week! And se
veral couples this summer had referrals for siblings in about a month.
I know waiting is part of the process, but this stinks. We’re all done our homework. I’ve read every book on adoption and parenting known to man. We’ve bought everything we can to prepare when we don’t know the age or gender of our kids. Now we’re just hanging here waiting. Jrock, of course, is handing this a lot better than I am. He’s also a pretty patient man 
Honestly, it’s all I can think about. Work is going well – you know, I don’t know if I ever posted it, but at the end of August (just a week after I quit the last job) I got a call and am doing what I used to do. And that takes time and energy. BUT… I can’t shut off my brain. Writing in this blog was helpful for watching the time go by when something was happening. But now I have nothing to write about kids/adoption because we are just waiting.
Waiting just stinks. Referral soon… please…..
I hear ya! Waiting sucks!
Our file will be heading off in the next week or two, hopefully… and then we get the wait, too.
Waiting stinks.
I’m going to devise some sort of plan. Maybe put $10 aside per week we have to wait, and then when the referral comes, use the money to go out and celebrate or something.
Something fun, to make the wait a little more endurable.
Of course, we’ll be so busy getting the house in order and the baby’s room together — we still have a lot to do — I hope that will help it pass quickly.
Yeah – like you, (just a little more extreme) we have a whole house to renovate up – distractions like this are good, I think.
BUT… do they really distract or just cloud the mind?
~~hmmm~~~
Feeling fuzzy;
N
I think if you get too stressed about them, these “distractions” definitely can mess with your head. I remember when we had a bunch of stuff to do to finish the homestudy — we were really stressed out, spending money we didn’t have…
I think we’re getting better at waiting now. BDH was all in a panic today to rush off to the mall and get passport photos done (one of the last things we have on our list to finish the dossier) and I was all “Why? One or two days isn’t going to make a difference. Let’s do it when we can take our time and relax and not rush.”
He feels like it’s just NEVER going to happen. He’s struggling with the waiting. Me, I’m just trying to stick to the mantra that it’s a short wait for a lifetime of reward.
Stuff that we have to do to get the baby’s room together, I am going to do as part of my daily/weekly routine. Add bedding and stuff into the regular laundry. Carpet clean when I do the rest of that floor. Paint when I can.
Otherwise, I am trying not to dwell on it.
I hear ya!! We’ve been waiting for 10 weeks now! KidsLink had told us 8-10 but now they are saying it might be longer…ARGHH!!! I’m getting super anxious!
Isabelle
Ok, Cinn – you make me sick. All that patience!
(So you’re like my hubby in our relationship
)
Isabelle;
here’s crossing my fingers for ya! X X
Waiting sucks the big ones. We all know it and feel it with you — all you can do is fill your time with the things you want to do now that you will have little chance of doing when the baby/ies come home…
We are making sure we have an awesome OS trip each year we wait – so by the time we travel to Ethiopia we wont have any regrets…
Hugs.